Why do some couples divorce later in life?

 Posted on May 16, 2023 in Divorce

It’s common for many couples to divorce between their 20s and 40s. That said, more and more couples are divorcing later in life, e.g., choosing a gray divorce.

Those opting for gray divorces are typically 50 and order, and according to researchers, this phenomenon will triple by 2030. There are many reasons why some couples divorce later in life, and here are four of them.

1. They want to wait until their children are grown up

Some couples tolerate each other for their kids’ sake. Therefore, they wait until their children become independent adults before dissolving their marriage. However, if not done correctly, even adult children can suffer from the impact of their parents’ divorce.

2. They want to reverse past regrets

Many people marry due to pressures from their parents or other relatives. They stick it out for 20 to 30 years to honor familial obligations, even if their marriage is toxic or dysfunctional. Years later, they come to a point where they can’t take it anymore and want out.

3. They have years-long unaddressed issues

It’s normal and okay for couples to disagree on certain issues as long as they can handle them well. However, it’s problematic when they either fight over the same subjects without coming to a resolution or let issues fester by ignoring them.

4. They have grown apart over the years

In some cases, couples decide to marry because of limerence or something else holding them together, like children or a business. Once the kids grow up, limerence fades away or retirement arrives, they feel there is no point in being together anymore.

Regardless of the reasons, couples shouldn’t force themselves to stay in an unhappy or abusive marriage. If you’re considering a gray divorce, seek experienced legal guidance to aid you in your decision.