2 tips for healthy boundaries among co-parents

 Posted on August 09, 2022 in Child Custody

When you divorce, one of the best things you can do for your children is to find ways to work out a co-parenting arrangement with your ex. This requires working as a team to make decisions that are best for the kids.

Co-parenting isn’t always easy. It’s best if you set some firm boundaries at the start of the co-parenting relationship. This can help to reduce the stress of the situation and it sets a good example for the children.

Leave your personal lives out of the co-parenting relationship

One of the most important things to do is to remember that the focus has to be on the children. You shouldn’t worry about your ex’s personal life – and they shouldn’t worry about yours. The only time that personal lives should come into the picture is if there’s a chance that the circumstances could be detrimental to the kids.

Stick to the established schedule and agreed upon changes

The parenting time schedule is important. This provides the child with consistency by knowing they’re able to spend time with both parents. You and your ex must commit to keeping that schedule unless there are changes that you both agree to. Remember to alert your co-parent to important events in your child’s life if you’re the one who handles that schedule.

The parenting plan you set has a major impact on how the co-parenting arrangement works. Make sure that everything you and your ex agree on is in writing so you have it there to refer back to if you ever have any questions. The terms you set should reflect what they need now since there’s the option to modify the terms in the future.